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Happy Families: Handling Unhappy Times

June 8, 2015

No family is happy all of the time. Josh Davies, one of seven siblings featured on the latest episode of Happy Families, shared how he and his family create many happy moments and how they handle the unhappy times. In either effort, focus on Jesus Christ is key.

What do you love most about being part of your family?

I love how I have a constant source of support. If I accomplish something in my life, I know I have a group of people I can go to who will express sincere encouragement. I know they support me because they love me, no strings attached. Along those lines, when I have a time of struggle or stress, I know that same group of people can offer me advice and a listening ear. Each member of the family is different, and everyone has something unique to offer. When it comes down to it, I guess I love the way everyone is there for each other.

You are getting married soon. Congratulations! Which aspects and traditions of your family’s culture do you hope to carry over into your own future family?

The greatest thing I learned from my family was living a life of consecrated service. I recognized early on that my parents lived their lives for Jesus Christ and did all they could to build His kingdom. They were quick to accept Church callings and taught us to do the same. Whenever someone was in need, my parents made sure they did all they could to help.

One of the greatest examples of this occurred in 1999. My dad knew the child of a good friend was close to death due to cystic fibrosis, so he stepped forward and actually donated a lobe of his lung in order to save her life. The impact that had on me was tremendous, even as a 7-year-old boy. As Rachel and I get married, I hope to carry on the culture of a life lived in the service of God.

All families have unhappy moments. What advice do you have for families who are experiencing unhappiness? What have you learned from your parents and siblings about handling that?

This is something that we felt was important to say from the beginning: a happy family isn’t necessarily a perfect family. My family has struggles. My family has stress. We have arguments and we experience trials, just as any other family. I feel like if you were to try and create a “Perfect Family” video series, you really wouldn’t have anyone to spotlight. That imperfection, however, is a big part of what makes us a happy family.

I get to see the parable of the prodigal son play out almost daily, in very small ways. If someone in my family makes a mistake, we don’t wish bad things for him or her. Rather, we rejoice when the time comes that he or she comes back to the family. I’m grateful that when I make a mistake, my family waits patiently until I "come to myself" and return home to their loving arms. In moments like those, our love grows stronger. We’re becoming a happier family every day because we’re learning better how to apply the Atonement.

In your opinion, what is the key to a happy family?

I really feel that Jesus Christ is the key to a happy family. If you think of it, all of the characteristics that Christ exemplified are those necessary to have a truly happy family—patience, love, obedience, humility, and more. I believe that so long as we strive to live as the Savior lived, we’ll discover a level of happiness in our families that nothing else can bring.

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