At the new year, a lot of singles set a goal to be in a serious relationship, but the winter can be an especially hard time to meet people with the harsh weather, seasonal emotions, holidays, lots of family time, and so on. Amy Stevens, CEO of a faith-based dating strategy company, offers some heartfelt advice for improving yourself and your dating strategies and being one step closer to finding love in 2015—even in the colder months!
Why is this time of year particularly difficult for singles?
While holidays are the some of the happiest occasions throughout the year, it is also a time that can very hard for singles. Winter months are difficult in general for some who may suffer from seasonal depression, but this timeframe also includes many holidays that are focused on love and happiness. The day-to-day routine that many singles have changes, and there is more time to reflect and notice that they are missing the experience of sharing it with a significant other. No one celebrates anything alone, so as they are naturally gathering with loved ones, they may get more questions from friends and family about their dating life, and they may even feel judged or misunderstood.
What are the best ways to combat seasonal loneliness?
It is a great time to try something new, whether it be online dating or attending a holiday event, party, or activity that will get you out of your comfort zone. It’s important to remember that there are plenty of other singles who feel the same way you do. Online dating sites have some of their highest activity levels during the holidays because this is when many singles finally slow down long enough to consider new ways of approaching their love life. The holidays are a great time to reach out and connect with other single friends, trusted family members, or mentors in your life; together you can strategize a plan to change the way you think about dating, shake up your routine, and set specific goals for moving forward. Having goals that help you stretch and someone else to help you be accountable is an excellent way to gain renewed hope that you can change your situation.
During the winter, are there any different tips you’d offer for people trying to find love?
Embrace what you love, and don’t be afraid to make connections with others who may share your interests. Whether you embrace the outdoors or prefer to stay inside, there are lots of classes you can take to refine or learn a new skill. Consider planning or joining a trip or cruise to somewhere warm or a winter getaway to try a snow sport. Set goals around something different you want to try or experience that will help you meet new people. Offering to teach someone else how to do something you love is another great way to combine service with making new friends. Remember that while everyone you meet may not be a love interest, they might just know someone who is. In the modern world of digital media, it’s easy to get distracted from really connecting with people face to face. We counsel our clients to use technology to expand their network for introductions, but fostering deeper relationships is best done offline.