Mormon Messages

Having Children Enriches Your Life


Listen to experiences from married couples and discover how they found blessings within their families because of their decision to have children.


    [SPEAKING CHINESE] We have two kids. We have a two-and-a-half-year-old and a nine-month-old.

    We were ready to have kids when we realized there's so much more to life than being places.

    While we were living in Philadelphia, taking the train to New York and pursuing all these really great dreams that we had, I didn't realize that there was a whole other part of my heart that would open up.

    At first I did not really want to have a kid. I haven't finished my school yet. We watched Elder Andersen's talk "Children." And during the talk he said, "Where's your faith?" I thought that piercing question was just for me.

    And I feel right about having a kid.

    We go forward in faith--realizing the decision of how many children to have and when to have them is between a husband and wife and the Lord.

    I'm like, "No, no, we can't do this." And it's like, "What are we going to do now? We're going to have a baby." And then, "We're going to have twins!" I was just kind of freaking out.

    And it was a big jump of, like, "Hey, this is a big step."

    We have four little boys, because he's one. Tell Daddy "I love you."

    As a father, I fill a significant chunk of his world.

    You're just finding that your everyday things that you're going to do--it's more fun in unloading the dishwasher with the clean dishes.

    The plastic stuff, we'll let them load.

    I think a common misconception with having kids is that life is over. I'm an artist. And I somehow am able to get it done just the same as I did before. It's been really cool to see and be a part of how the Lord is just making it happen.

    If I can take the time to just listen and to see my children, then it just makes it worth it. Those moments when you could become frustrated--suddenly you just see the frustration in their eyes, and your heart is filled with compassion.

    It's a combination of patience and also just not taking things too seriously about life.

    And we learn how to love in our home. It's such an important thing. Looking back, we had a great life, but we have a great life now. And I wouldn't give it up for anything.

    Daddy, Daddy, Daddy. Daddy, Daddy.

    [INAUDIBLE] So now you can't touch it, because it's not yours anymore.


    I think that Heavenly Father really is trying to help us succeed. He has this wonderful plan, a plan of salvation. And as we faithfully follow the plan and do our part, He will help us.